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What makes you truly and uniquely “you”?
Jeff Bezos has long championed the idea of a “Day 1” mentality – a relentless focus on staying agile, hungry, and innovative, as if Amazon were still a scrappy startup, even as it ballooned into a trillion-dollar behemoth. Love him or loathe him, agree with Amazon’s tactics or not, there’s no denying the brilliance of this advice. It’s gold. And it’s not just about business; it’s about survival.
Differentiation is survival. The universe, in its infinite indifference, wants you to be typical. It wants you to blend in, to conform, to settle into equilibrium. But equilibrium is death. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, especially as I reflect on my final annual shareholder letter to Amazon’s CEO. There’s something urgent here, something I feel compelled to share – not just with Amazonians, but with anyone willing to listen.
Let me borrow a passage from Richard Dawkins’ The Blind Watchmaker. It’s about biology, but stick with me – it’s also a perfect metaphor for life, business, and everything in between.
Dawkins writes:
“Staying off death is a thing that you have to work at. Left to itself – and that is what it is when it dies – the body tends to revert to a state of equilibrium with its environment. If you measure some quantity, like the temperature of a living body, you will typically find that it is markedly different from the corresponding measures in the surroundings. Our bodies, for instance, are usually hotter than our surroundings, and in cold climates they have to work hard to maintain the difference.
When we die, the work stops, the temperature of the body equilibrates with that of the surroundings. Not all animals work so hard to avoid coming into equilibrium with their surroundings’ temperature, but all animals do some comparable work. For instance, in a dry country, animals and plants work to preserve their water content. If they fail to do this, they die.
When they die, more generally, if things didn’t work actively to prevent it, they would eventually merge into their surroundings and cease to exist as autonomous beings. That is what happens when they die.”
Now, Dawkins isn’t writing about business, but the metaphor is irresistible. Differentiation – staying distinct, staying alive – requires constant effort. If you stop working at it, you’ll merge with your environment. You’ll become indistinguishable from your competitors, your peers, the noise. And once that happens, you’re done. You’ve lost what makes you – uniquely you.
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The Blind Watchmaker by Richard Dawkins
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This isn’t just true for companies. It’s true for individuals, relationships, even societies. I know a couple – happily married, by the way – who have this running joke. Every so often, the husband looks at his wife, feigning distress, and says, “Can’t you just be normal?” They both laugh because they know the truth: if either of them were “normal,” their relationship wouldn’t work. It’s the quirks, the differences, the friction that keeps it alive. But here’s the thing: maintaining those differences isn’t easy. It takes work.
The same principle applies at every scale. Democracies, for example, are not the historical norm. Tyranny is. Democracies require constant effort – vigilance, participation, and a willingness to fight for what makes them distinct. If we stop doing that work, we’ll slide back into equilibrium. And equilibrium, in this case, looks a lot like oppression.
So, yes, differentiation is survival. But let’s be clear: it’s not free. It comes at a cost. We’re often told to “be ourselves,” as if that’s some magical, painless state of being. But the truth is, being yourself – staying distinct – is hard work. It means resisting the pull of conformity, even when it would be easier to give in. It means constantly pushing against the tide, knowing that the moment you stop, you’ll start to drift.
For Amazon, that means resisting the urge to become just another corporation, content to coast on past successes. It means staying in Day 1, even when Day 2 looks so much more comfortable. For you, it might mean something entirely different. But the principle is the same: don’t let the universe win. Don’t let it make you typical.
The fairy tale version of “be yourself” is a lie. It suggests that once you embrace your uniqueness, the struggle ends. But the truth is, the struggle never ends. And that’s okay. Because the alternative – equilibrium, conformity, death – is so much worse.
So keep working. Keep differentiating. Keep fighting the pull of the ordinary. It’s worth it.
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