Future STRONG ~ For Parents

Creating an ideal environment for children to thrive

Creating an ideal environment for children to thrive

  How children thrive:  Children thrive in stability and predictability. They cannot find civility in chaos like some of us adults can. So, its up to us parents to give them the sense of security they crave for. It can be a tiny corner at home, on a stage where they...

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Connect with your child before you communicate

Connect with your child before you communicate

  Connection first, communication next:  Try this. Ask your child questions like, "Did you eat alone again at lunch today?" or "You look high. Are you doing drugs?" Did they suddenly become defiant and respond defensively? Of course, they did. OK, try asking them less...

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You know you’re a mom when..

You know you’re a mom when..

  You've wondered about your fear of death, when the only thing you have always been petrified about is your child digging into that forbidden closet or the bathroom cupboard to find out the secret stash of “things”? You've looked down on the bathroom floor to see two...

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The Teen Social Contract

The Teen Social Contract

  As parents we are struggling to wriggle out of the strong, addictive grips of the Big Tech. Our children are growing up in a post figurative society where they don't need us for answering any questions they might have. Yet, if we don't teach them and ourselves how...

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Raising children who persevere

Raising children who persevere

“I am not a genius. But I will have a calling and I will challenge myself every day. When I get knocked down, I’ll get back up. I may not be the smartest person in the room, but I’ll strive to be the grittiest.” - From Grit by Angela Duckworth   What parents want: ...

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Here’s why your child is hooked onto social media

Here’s why your child is hooked onto social media

  Teenagers now average almost half of the amount of sleep that their counterparts did just a decade ago. Teenagers are finding themselves mostly distracted, lost and overwhelmed. And sadly the reasons have nothing to do with the academic pressure they face at school...

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Strategies to grow attention span

Strategies to grow attention span

  This past Wednesday afternoon, my 9 year old son kept switching between two tasks. Writing a full page of a mantra praising Lord Shiva, a homework from our Sunday Hindu school. (He hated it) Reading 10 pages of the comic book, Calvin and Hobbes. (He loved it) As he...

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What children teach us

What children teach us

  Our most rewarding journeys as a parent happen in the most imperfect parenting moments. It’s foolish to think that the kids don’t notice our shortcomings, it’s just that they have accepted us with our imperfections. Not a day goes by when my children don't remind me...

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Parents, here are ways to manage your own anxiety first

Parents, here are ways to manage your own anxiety first

  How anxiety arises:  One of the most important things we can learn as parents is to master our own stress and anxiety. Children pick up easily on our anxieties and insecurities. Having no rational explanations for the way we're conducting ourselves around them will...

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How it feels to parent an adolescent

How it feels to parent an adolescent

  If there was a definition of parents of adolescents, it might look like this. This person is highly anxious, stressed and uncertain about a lot of things involving their child. To the mix, I would like to add an element of dread too because I often wonder if I'm...

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A child’s violence, A parent’s bewilderment

A child’s violence, A parent’s bewilderment

  How did we come to this? Our children perpetrate violence and we watch in stunned silence. Yesterday at 2pm, there was a mass school shooting committed by a child against other children of a South Florida high school he had attended in the past. This is my life this...

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Who’s an ideal parent and why can’t we all be them?

Who’s an ideal parent and why can’t we all be them?

Who is an ideal parent?  Ideal parents empower their children to believe in themselves and encourage them to realize their highest potential. An ideal parenting scenario is being the best parents we can be, while keeping our cool factor intact. An ideal parent is one...

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Understanding stress and emotions in teenagers

Understanding stress and emotions in teenagers

  How stresses arrive?  As parents, we all share a unifying goal. Seeing our children happy. We weed out and do whatever it takes to preserve their laughter ringing in our ears. But, sometimes, uninvited and uninitiated by them, stresses can be triggered in our lives...

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Strategies for reducing stress in children

Strategies for reducing stress in children

  Strategies to improve your family's wellbeing:  Teaching children how to manage stress is key to their emotional and physical well being. Here are some practical strategies that you can use to improve the quality of your children and the over all wellbeing of your...

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Factors influencing emotional development in teenagers

Factors influencing emotional development in teenagers

During the ages of 5 to 12, children learn to do things on their own. This is the age where they feel confident in their ability to initiate and achieve goals. Negligence or restrictions on a child during such time casts doubts on his own abilities leaving him not...

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How to get your teenager to talk

How to get your teenager to talk

  Embrace this thought for a second. As your teen's childhood ends and he enters puberty, your opinions start to mean nothing to him. Well, he would still like to make you proud, but his peers' opinions are what he will take most to heart. Around 12 years of age,...

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Cognitive Development in Teenagers

Cognitive Development in Teenagers

  As their physiological and cognitive functions develop, teens begin to develop the ability to think abstractly. They're bursting with information about the exciting life that's happening around them. They also become self conscious of their growing bodies as puberty...

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How to be a good parent

How to be a good parent

Who are children? Children are little humans who start out their lives with an unconditional positive regard for everyone around them. They assume that we’re doing our best at any given moment. Otherwise, they would've already asked us, “Mom and dad, I don’t feel...

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Why children rebel

Why children rebel

When caregivers don't live by the rules they preach, children start to question the validity of everything. When children sense that their integrity is being questioned, they rebel. They trust you to put food on the table and provide a safe and secure home to thrive....

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What children crave

What children crave

My son is changing his flat tire on the side of a long, desolate road in the middle of a rainy night. He's 25 and he seems to know what he's doing. But, I'm not there for him. In fact, I'm oblivious to his fate and getting ready for bed a few thousand miles away. This...

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How to raise Generation Z in a Postfigurative society

How to raise Generation Z in a Postfigurative society

A 2016 survey found that over a third of American men ages 18-34 still live at home with their parents. So ladies, this is where the guy you want to marry is – Playing Level 5 Grand Theft Auto in his mother’s basement. * According to anthropologist Margaret Mead, for...

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How to raise Generation Z in a Postfigurative society

How to raise Generation Z in a Postfigurative society

A 2016 survey found that over a third of American men ages 18-34 still live at home with their parents. So ladies, this is where the guy you want to marry is - Playing Level 5 Grand Theft Auto in his mother's basement. * According to anthropologist Margaret Mead, for...

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Hyper-connected parents; Dis connected progeny

Hyper-connected parents; Dis connected progeny

Tag line: Dispatches of parenting wisdom from a hyper connected mom in an over wired society.   PARENTAL CULPABILITY:  I recently went to a book signing event by Dr. Madeline Levine, a mother of 3 boys and the author of the book, Teach Your Children Well, as she spoke...

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I Rock and the Boy Genius..

At the risk of celebrating "mediocrity", we are very careful about what we congratulate and good job my 5 year old son about, on a daily basis on his 'achievements'.. So, time has been passing and with each day, it is amusing how the little ones are growing up to know...

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