The Journey to Spiritual Growth: Shedding Ego, Embracing Authenticity, and Finding Inner Peace

The Dance Of Becoming

Let’s talk about spiritual growth – not as some lofty, abstract concept, but as the raw, messy, and deeply human journey it truly is. It’s about peeling back the layers of who we think we’re supposed to be and stepping into who we actually are. It’s about shedding the heavy cloaks of ego, desire, and lust – those things that tether us to the superficial – and embracing a life of authenticity, compassion, and, yes, inner peace.

But here’s the thing: spiritual growth isn’t a one-and-done deal. It’s not a trophy you earn or a finish line you cross. It’s a continuous unfolding, a lifelong dance of becoming. So, how do we recognize it? And more importantly, how do we nurture it? Let’s discuss.

What Is Spiritual Growth, Really? 

Spiritual growth is the process of waking up to your true self – your essence, your purpose, your potential. It’s not about achieving some perfect, static state of enlightenment. It’s about evolving, stumbling, and rising again. It’s about loosening your grip on the material world and deepening your connection to something greater – call it God, the Universe, Source, or whatever resonates with you.

As Pujya Guruji and Swami Aparajitananda remind us, it’s about trading attachment to worldly matters for an appetite for spirituality. But here’s the kicker: this isn’t about rejecting the world. It’s about seeing it clearly, without the distortion of ego.

How Do You Know You’re Growing? 

1. You Care Less About the Noise: As you grow spiritually, the things that once consumed you, praise, pleasure, drama, they all start to lose their grip. You’re less swayed by external validation and more anchored in your inner truth.
2. You Crave Depth: You find yourself drawn to spiritual practices – meditation, prayer, Satsangh (spiritual gatherings). These aren’t chores; they’re nourishment for your soul.
3. You Embody Spiritual Qualities: Think of the Ramayana. When qualities like knowledge (Shri Rama), devotion (Sitaji), dispassion (Lakshman), and selfless service (Hanumanji) coexist in your heart, you’re on the right path.
4. You Feel More: Not in a dramatic, overwhelming way, but in a way that’s deeply connected. You’re more aware of your inner state, more attuned to others, and more in sync with the world around you.
5. Your Heart Opens: Love and compassion aren’t just words anymore. They’re lived experiences for yourself, for others, and for this planet we call home.

How Do You Nurture It? 

1. Keep God Close: Not in a preachy way, but in a practical one. Remember God in your daily life while you’re washing dishes, driving to work, or navigating a tough conversation. It’s about infusing the mundane with the sacred.
2. Act from a Place of Peace: Before you act, ask yourself: Does this bring me inner calm? If the answer is yes, you’re on the right track. If not, pause and recalibrate.
3. Live with Integrity: Be humble. Be honest. Be real. These aren’t just nice-to-haves; they’re non-negotiables on the spiritual path.
4. Choose Love Over Hate: Let go of grudges. Release the need to be right. Love and forgiveness aren’t just gifts to others; they’re gifts to yourself.
5. Chant God’s Name: Whether it’s a mantra, a prayer, or a simple affirmation, chanting keeps you connected to the Divine. It’s like a spiritual anchor in a chaotic world.

The Role of Self-Reflection and Practice

Here’s the truth: spiritual growth doesn’t happen by accident. It requires intentionality. It starts with honest self-reflection with you looking in the mirror and asking, “Who am I, really?” Vedanta teaches us that the gap between siddhanta (ultimate truth) and vyavahara (worldly activity) must be bridged through abhyasa (practice). And guess what? Your daily life is your gymnasium. Every challenge, every relationship, every moment is an opportunity for growth.

Beware of Spiritual Bypassing

Let’s get real for a second. Spirituality isn’t a Band-Aid for your emotional wounds. It’s not a way to avoid facing your pain or your shadow. True spiritual growth means embracing all of it – the light and the dark, the joy and the sorrow. It’s about showing up, fully and authentically, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Conclusion: Let The Magic Unfold

Spiritual growth isn’t about reaching some distant mountaintop. It’s about the journey – the messy, beautiful, imperfect journey of becoming. It’s about shedding the layers of ego, desire, and lust that obscure your true nature and stepping into a life of authenticity, compassion, and inner peace.

So, as you walk this path, remember: growth takes time. Be patient with yourself. Water the roots of your spiritual practice, even when the fruits aren’t immediately visible. And above all, keep showing up. Because the journey itself? That’s where the magic happens.

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Notes on post: This is a summary of notes I’ve gathered over a few discourses while attending Chinmaya Mission Atlanta.

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अनेन वेद्यं सच्छास्त्रमिति वेदान्तडिण्डिमः॥

Brahman alone is real; the universe is mithya – neither fully real nor unreal, but an appearance. The individual self (jiva) is none other than Brahman itself, not separate or different. This is the true teaching of the scriptures, as revealed by Vedanta. ~ Verse 20 from Brahma Jnānavali Māla