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We all carry baggages of “what-ifs” and “what-else’s” with us, and at the same time give ourselves unlimited freedom to judge ourselves. Will we stop and call the stranger on the street all the names we call ourselves? Then, why do we think we can do that to the person in the mirror?
Hate is inherently filled with turmoil and brutality. And self-hate is filled with far more destruction. We don’t want to be associated with those kind of emotions, do we?
Compassion is an emotion that stems from the mind AND the heart. And when we don’t have compassion towards ourselves, we can’t live to our full potential. It is the feelings of inferiority, inadequacy and insecurity that determine the goal of an individual’s existence.
As a protagonist to our personal story, we can’t be an underdog in it. Surely there’s no place for doubt, powerlessness & fear if the hero has to be a winner.
We’re all raised to be grateful for what we have. And this determines how we see ourselves. We do so little to celebrate our strengths. We’re hard on ourselves often mistaking it for humility. We take constant guilt trips about our bad habits.
When have you told yourself that you’re “not enough”? Did you let anyone or anything extrinsic to you determine your personal worth?
No material wealth that we display externally for others to take notice will suffice if we’re unhappy and empty on the inside. As for other people to decide how much we value to them or to the world, well, they simply don’t have the relevant context to do that.
To build our self-worth, we must first ask ourselves how we’re showing up for ourselves. Because self-leadership is important so we can guide and lead others who look upto us.
All I’m asking is that you grow your heart a little. To not take yourself so seriously and to forgive the way you look. To cut your losses and give yourself some slack. Take stock of your accomplishments and acknowledge your abilities. Appreciate for how far you’ve come.
Get to a place of unconditional positive regard for yourself and your abilities. Just be yourself. Try to live a life of minimal internal conflict.
Life is a trail in error. Be happy and content with yourself on how much you’re trying to make it happen. Of course, not to the point that you’ve gotten passive about your dreams and goals and settle for mediocre.
In a way that Buddhism teaches radical acceptance to us. That we’re inherently lovely, wise and compassionate. If we were not that way, we would have seen all strangers as cruel and irredeemable. Wouldn’t we?
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The Light Of Your Own Being
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Our mission with FutureSTRONG Academy – to grow children who respect themselves, their time and their capabilities in a world where distractions are just a click or a swipe away.
I see myself as an advocate for bringing social, emotional and character development to families, schools and communities. I never want to let this idea out of my sight – Our children are not just GPAs. I’m a Writer and a Certified Master Coach in NLP and CBT. Until 2017, I was also a Big Data Scientist. In December of 2044, I hope to win the Nobel. Namasté.
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Our children will one day face the real world without our support. Academic development is not the only skill they will need in the real world where people skills like taking the lead, emotional intelligence and a strong moral compass will determine who will shine. So, as parents who want to raise well rounded adults, we want to give them the right tools for their personal development.
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