The Motivated Child Initiative
Teenagers are terrified of two things. They fear judgment of their loved ones and peers and are constantly worried about their privacy. As stake holders in their wellbeing, we need to empower them with our belief in their abilities and lend them an ear without judgment. These are the principles behind our modules within The Motivated Child Initiative for 6th to 8th graders.
Every Initiative has three Series that have modules in them to Engage, Energize and Empower our children.
The ENGAGE Series
* Week 1: Love Your Self
* Week 2: Find Your Worth
* Week 3: 3D Speak
* Week 4: Rule Your Screens
* Week 5: Hear Me Out
* Week 6: The Good Life
* Week 7: The Social Contract
* Week 8: Trending Now
* Week 9: Luck Or Choice
* Week 10: Become a People Magnet
* Week 11: What Parents Want
* Week 12: Why Get High?
* Bonus: Give Yourself a Break
The ENERGIZE Series
* Week 1: Rock Your Boat
* Week 2: Mind the Expectation Gap
* Week 3: Love Your Brain
* Week 4: Grow Your Heart
* Week 5: Don’t Over Think
* Week 6: Cultivate Your Mind
* Week 7: Manage Your Self
* Week 8: Clear The Clutter
* Week 9: Slow Down
* Week 10: Let Go
* Week 11: Redefining Success
* Week 12: Connect To Calm
* Bonus: What Is Your Truth
The EMPOWER Series
* Week 1: Connect and Contribute
* Week 2: Be Free
* Week 3: Show You Care
* Week 4: How to Thrive
* Week 5: Make Today Great Again
* Week 6: Leverage Your Tragedy
* Week 7: Remove The Temptation
* Week 8: Be Remarkable
* Week 9: Be a Problem Solver
* Week 10: Set Your Goals
* Week 11: Set Your Mind
* Week 12: Sound Like a Leader
* Bonus: See Your Reflection
The ENGAGE Series
* Love Your Self: Learn tips to improve your self esteem and how you can introduce radical self compassion into your life. Understand how you can be your own friend first.
* Find Your Worth: Learn the strategies to refuel themselves ahead of tests and at the end of a long day. Learn to become aware of their strengths and ask for feedback to improve themselves.
* 3D Speak: Understand the elements of a face to face conversation – the tone, non verbal cues and intent. Understand the pit falls of linear communication that we have adapted as a result of our digital world.
* Rule Your Screens: Find out the truth behind our smart phone addictions. Your lack of self control is not entirely to blame. Learn about how the digital revolution has changed the way we live our lives now.
* Hear Me Out: What about your school, your life and the world makes you happy and sad? What are the things you wished you could tell your parents, teachers and friends?
* The Good Life: What makes a life good? What are the elements of a great school life for teens? Let’s talk about what success is and what the habits of successful teens are.
* The Social Contract: Learn tips to use social media and the Internet effectively, positively and minimally. Understand how smart phones are affecting our sleep, productivity and creativity.
* Trending Now: What news interests you? What sport legends and pop artists do you follow and why? What do you Google? Let’s see if there are answers to real life questions on the Internet.
* Luck Or Choice: How can your define success? Refuel on productivity strategies like extending your brain and abstraction. Learn how to thicken your skin, ask for help and be yourself to move upwards.
* Become a People Magnet: Charisma is the art of inspiring others to action. Learn the strategies for personal branding, leadership skills and a fabulous social etiquette. Learn personal skills like listening, empathy and relating to others.
* What Parents Want: Being a grown up sucks, ask your parents. Parents seem to want the best for you, but they don’t convey it well, do they? Understand your teenage brain first to understand your parents better.
* Why Get High? Did you know you can get high naturally? Our mind, our thoughts and our hormones can help us get there. Real life is full of amazing people doing “amazing” things, we don’t need to watch Comment awards to LOL.
* Give Yourself a Break: Embrace gratitude for what you already have so you can take on the future in a positive spirit. Learn how to abandon fear, shame, blame and judgment and live your best life ever. Gain a perspective.
The ENERGIZE Series
* Rock Your Boat: Find out the secrets to embracing change and thriving in it. Learn how change can lead to new insights and new situations most of the time for the better. Start with understanding what will not change.
* Mind the Expectation Gap: Find yourself constantly fighting with your parents and anxious over your friendships? People and situations don’t upset us. Expectations from them do. Learn tips on how to mind the gap.
* Love Your Brain: Learn the difference between your left and right brains. Find out tips on how to extend your brain. And find out how sleep, OMG, sleep will help you keep your brain focused and in top shape.
* Grow Your Heart: Learn to apply the principles of gratitude in life. We’re a product of the kindness of so many of us around us. Learn to recognize, remember and reciprocate. Recognize your and others’ emotions.
* Don’t Over Think: Self doubt, ruminating about the past, regret and guilt are emotions that sabotage our thought resources. Instead learn about Critical and Divergent to boost your productivity.
* Cultivate Your Mind: Your thoughts determine the quality of your life. Look at failures as just stepping stones.
Develop the mindset of no problem is too big to face.
* Manage Your Self: Learn tips on time, energy and your thoughts. What makes you feel alive? Understand your emotions, your feelings and their impact on your actions.
* Clear The Clutter: The desire to complete ourselves with brands comes from the feelings of imperfection from within. What are we accumulating instead of gathering priceless goods like education, experience, and memories?
* Slow Down: Learn tips on how to take moments out of the day to “do nothing.” Understand why burn out happens and how you can avoid it. Learn how to set priorities and keep the bar of expectations realistic.
* Let Go: Learn how to let go of judgment, hate, ambivalence and decision fatigue. Make decisions quickly and smartly. Avoid the scarcity trap and cut your losses to move on upwards.
* Redefining Success: Charisma, Learn, grow, be consistent. show up, resist nothing. Do you know what you want your life to look like in 10 years?
* Connect To Calm: Unplug Loneliness Solitude, breathe, living in the present, mindfulness. Journaling. Intuition, don’t use crowd mentality, use your own intelligence.
* What Is Your Truth: Do you have a set of your own personal values? Not values you’ve inherited from your parents or the community. Let’s find out ways to strengthen our moral compass.
The EMPOWER Series
* Connect and Contribute: By connecting with others, we can share our gifts and positively change their lives. Connection brings meaning and purpose into our lives. Let’s learn how we can all positively impact the world.
* Be Free: Learn the tips on how to become free of limiting emotions like guilt, anxiety and regret. Learn how not to obsess about what other think of you. To enjoy the journey of life, learn to cut your losses.
* Show You Care: While kindness is cool, treating others with equanimity is a super human quality. Once in a while taking the focus away from your needs and wants can bring into focus what we can do for the community and the world.
* How to Thrive: You can either just survive or thrive in this beautiful life that you’ve been given. Learn to set an intention on a daily basis, commit to your own wellbeing and ask for help when need. Learn how not to self sabotage.
* Make Today Great Again: Understand what’s causing you to procrastinate and delay your decision making that impacts your long term goals, including your project work. Learn how you can flex your attention span muscle.
* Leverage Your Tragedy: Learn that having experienced tragedy doesn’t have to mean the end of the world. Learn coping mechanisms on how to manage crisis, stress and grief.
* Remove The Temptation: Instead of giving up control on things that we’re addicted to, learn strategies on how to deal with them head on. Start by not leaving your devices to your self control.
* Be Remarkable: Think like a leader by learning how to be in others’ shoes. Learn to become resilient to stress. Develop unstoppable confidence and break barriers with your own limiting beliefs.
* Be a Problem Solver: Learn how to adapt to solving problems, because problems will always exist in one form or another. Learn strategies on how to build resilience, redefine hardships and keep moving upward.
* Set Your Goals: Learn how to be courageous about your ideas and aspirations. Challenging yourself to out perform your past achievements can be a great momentum. Create an environment that helps you thrive.
* Set Your Mind: The body might have limits, but the mind has no limits. Understand how your emotions, feelings and thoughts are guiding your actions. Set your mind on taking bold steps with your dreams.
* Sound Like a Leader: Learn the best kept secret about leadership. Learn how emotional intelligence, an elevated vocabulary and a strong sense of self will make you a strong, powerful leader.
* See Your Reflection: Learn to develop extreme self awareness, while seeing your strengths for what they are. Learn how you see yourself determines the challenges you will undertake, and how quickly you will bounce back from failures.
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